In Defense of Doing Things Alone

Evelyn Bell — Thu, 05 Nov 2026 18:21:31 +0000

Thu, 05 Nov 2026 18:21:31 +0000 https://www.wpsrhd.com/blogs/in-defense-of-doing-things-alone/post/in-defense-of-doing-things-alone/ o384-2192-6aecc92babe93 Evelyn Bell Doing things alone can be extremely beneficial for mental strength and an overall
breath of fresh air for your brain. By seeking out independent experiences you can
lower stress levels, do things you love without waiting on the availability of others, and
enjoy some people watching. For those with social anxiety, doing things alone may be
exposure therapy to help you grow. Doing things alone can be scary, it can make you
feel awkward. But I’m a firm believer in ‘it’s only awkward if you make it awkward’. But
even then, what’s a little awkwardness going to hurt? Live, laugh, and move on.
Let me be clear, being alone and being lonely are two different things. Choosing
to go out and do things alone can be uncomfortable for some people. You might be
afraid of being alone or you might be afraid of being perceived as being alone. Why?
You want people to like you and to know you’re likable by the relationships in your life,
that’s human. But being constantly surrounded by a community that you need to
communicate with, emotionally regulate around, and cater to can be mentally
exhausting. Everyone needs and deserves a break from societal pressure.
So, I encourage you to go to your favorite restaurant by yourself and get a seat
with a nice view. I encourage you to turn off communication for a moment or maybe all
outside noise and sit with yourself at a park. Take a long drive, check in with yourself.
Go to an event, a movie, a recreational class you enjoy. You don’t need to wait on
anyone to join you. Another benefit of spending time with yourself could be a boost in
creativity.
I believe that one of the ways most people want to be loved is to be observed.
Most of us want to be known and valued. A great example of that is when others
sacrifice their time for us. So, what’s wrong or awkward about setting aside some time
to spend with yourself? Absolutely nothing, it’s actually healthy for you. Besides,
sometimes you might enjoy an activity, event, or experience more by yourself. I am an
advocate for solo travel or vacations for many different reasons. It could be the reset
you need or peace and quiet you’re craving. Maybe self reflection would be a powerful
tool for the season you're in, plan a weekend getaway!
When we spend time alone we usually notice more. We’re more aware of our
environment and we tend to appreciate the little things more. This can help expand our
views or change and shape our perspectives. Doing things alone doesn’t mean you’re
not sociable or that you hate people. You’re allowed to enjoy an experience by yourself.
Many introverts may resonate with this perspective because they often need time to
recharge after social interaction. Doing things alone doesn’t have to be lonely, it can be
rejuvenating. Spending time with yourself is an opportunity for growth, an opportunity to
slow down, and a safe space to rest your mind.

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In Defense of Doing Things Alone